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Most people have a general idea of what mentorship is, but according to the��2023 Career Optimism Index, not a lot of people have a mentor. In fact, less than half of surveyed American adults say they have a mentor.

So, if everyone agrees it’s helpful,��why is mentorship so hard to come by?

Here, we look at what mentorship means, why it’s important and how you can cultivate it in your career, no matter which side of the relationship you’re on.

What is mentorship?

To understand what mentorship is, look back to��:��The Odyssey. In Homer’s epic poem, Odysseus entrusts the care and education of his son, Telemachus, to Mentor, Odysseus’ friend, while Odysseus is away.

Although that relationship had its ups and downs, mentoring today is viewed largely as a good thing. The goal is generally to transfer wisdom, guidance and information from an experienced person to a less experienced person, all with an eye toward developing the novice’s��personal and professional growth.

According to��, mentorship serves two primary purposes:

1.������ Psychosocial support: The mentor helps role model and guide the mentee in terms of values, behavior and attitudes.

2.������ Career support: The mentor guides the mentee in skill development, career choices and even��workplace visibility, all while holding the mentee accountable in terms of decisions and progress.

Yes, it can be uncomfortable to be��held accountable��by someone else, and yes, it can be��time-consuming��to invest yourself in another person’s progress. But the benefits, as it turns out, justify the investment.����

Benefits of mentorship

Mentorship seems tailored to help newer employees step onto the fast-track to professional success, and there is an element of truth to this.��, mentees are��promoted five times more often��than individuals without mentors.

But mentors stand to benefit too. Also, according to Guider, mentors are six times more likely to be promoted.

To all this,����ɫ��Ƶ Research Chair��Kimberly Underwood, PhD, MBA, adds: “Many mistakenly believe that mentorship only benefits the mentee. However, in successful mentoring relationships, both the mentor and mentee have an opportunity to learn and professionally develop. … There are opportunities to revisit current knowledge as well as��develop new knowledge��that benefits the mentee. This situation also allows for the continued development of valuable workplace skills, such as effective communication, emotional intelligence and leadership skills.”

This reciprocal relationship underscores another interesting point:��You can be both a mentor and a mentee simultaneously. Not only can you expand your own professional knowledge, but you can learn to become a truly effective mentor as well.

“Understanding the mentoring process through the lens of a mentee makes one a highly desirable mentor as they can understand both sides of the mentoring process,” Underwood explains.

Challenges of mentorship

How to find a mentor

Workplace initiatives

As noted in the Career Optimism Index data points above, only 23% of respondents claimed to have acquired a mentor through a workplace mentorship program. And, while 70% of surveyed employers say they have or will start a mentorship program, less than half of surveyed workers see it that way.

Clearly, communication could be improved.

But so, arguably, could��employer commitment��to developing and rolling out such programs.

What’s the holdup? Well, starting such a program is a lot harder than you’d think. At ��ɫ��Ƶ, for example, the��College of Doctoral Studies��launched a��pilot mentorship program��in April 2022 between doctoral students and alumni. Sixty-two relationships were formed, and it was successful enough to be turned into an official program a year later.

But the undertaking was significant.��Matching people��is one thing; getting the right people to join as both mentees and mentors is another. All of these aspects require facilitators who are experienced and knowledgeable enough to do it well.

If you want it done right …

Then do it yourself?

There may be some truth to this adage. As Underwood notes, “Barriers, such as mismatched expectations between a mentor and mentee, lack of time to commit to the mentoring process and implicit biases, can easily derail a workplace mentorship match.”

When you find your own mentor — and you are clear about what you want to achieve in doing so — you may have a better shot at getting that productive relationship.

So, where do you find a good mentor? Underwood explains:

1.������ Do your research: Mentors exist both in and out of the office. “Evaluate your existing personal and professional circles to identify individuals who could serve as good mentors.”

2.������ Make a short list and review their professional backgrounds: An online search is ideal to understand where your potential mentor or mentors have been and what they have accomplished professionally. This will help you identify the best fit for your goals.����

3.������ Communicate clearly: “A clear ‘ask’ is important in this process,” Underwood says. Before you sit down with a prospective mentor, make sure you know what you hope to gain and how your mentor can help you get there.

While mentorship can feel like a serious and lasting commitment, the relationship doesn’t have to be long term. “Not all mentoring relationships are lifelong,” Underwood says. “Closing a mentoring relationship does not signify failure, as they often lead to long-standing professional relationships. It simply means that one is progressing in their career.”

Done right, mentorship can benefit both the mentor and the mentee in ways that are more than just professional. “Successful mentoring relationships are built through HEART: honesty, enthusiasm, accountability, respect and trust,” Underwood says.

Like a good marriage, in other words, a good mentor–mentee relationship helps both people grow in manifold — and maybe even unpredictable — ways.